Divorce Mediation


Here is the big secret: divorce does not have to bankrupt you – but it can.  A litigated divorce can take many years.  I can tell you now that the low average for a litigated divorce is $49,000 (See: Consumer Reports).  Unlike a traditional divorce, divorce mediation puts you in charge of your divorce.  That is how you control the costs.  A divorce mediator helps you identify and discuss all the issues that need to be covered in your separation agreement.  You decide how to resolve them.

DIVORCE BY MEDIATION is a non-adversarial process helping people negotiate directly and dissolve marriages once the decision to divorce or separate is made.  We provide you with the opportunity to negotiate mutually beneficial terms in total privacy.

DIVORCE BY MEDIATION helps identify key issues concerning the division of personal and real property, support, parenting, and plans for the future.  It helps eliminate the painful win-lose atmosphere that is part of all adversarial divorces.  The process is a mutual search for a reasonable solution; neither partner can win at the other’s expense.  Resolutions must emerge from the process with a settlement created and accepted by both.  Mediation can also deal with specific limited issues such as times of access, what to do with the house, or other issues specified you at start.

The important aspects of DIVORCE BY MEDIATION are that:

It is non-adversarial. You are partners in decision-making.

It is mutual. You both must agree on solutions, or there is no agreement.

It helps clarify areas of conflict. Most couples have some conflict.  the mediator helps you manage the conflict and discuss things productively.

It gives you power. You can control your own decisions over your own lives.

It is best for your children. All of the discussions are tempered by the fact that you are both parents of your children and you will have a continuing relationship as parents after you have ended the spouse relationship.  Most other forms of divorce negotiations forget the best interests of the children.  In mediation it is always paramount.

You owe it to yourself, your children, and your future to learn more about mediation.

Fees are moderate and on an hourly basis.  We charge no retainers.  You pay only for the actual time you use.  We ask that you share the fees in a way that is appropriate to your situation, remembering that the mediator is working for both of you.

The average mediation takes 12 hours.  Mediation of specific issues or for couples without children is shorter.

How to Proceed. All you need to do is to call (917) 370-6560 or send an email message to info@123untangled.com and arrange for a mutually convenient appointment for a no obligation, free consultation for you and your spouse.  At that time, a detailed explanation of how we proceed is described.  Both of you receive the same information, and therefore each of you can rest assured that you will be on equal footing from the outset of the proceedings.

DIVORCE BY MEDIATION is not a legal service.  The outcome of the mediation is a memorandum of understanding detailing all of your agreements that your attorney will review and incorporate into the formal legal documents.  We can refer you to attorneys who have agreed to perform these services for modest fees.

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Portions Copyright 1991 John M. Haynes Ph.D.